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To cry or not to cry?

 
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Jolanky



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PostPosted: Tue Jul 07, 2009 10:23 am    Post subject: To cry or not to cry?  Reply with quote

Hi all. We have been blessed with a baby that wakes frequently through the night. She will only go to sleep if she is being fed and expects to be fed everytime she wakes. She goes down at about 7pm and wakes about 7am (apart from a few days a week when she likes to throw in a 5 o clock start just for a giggle). Between 7 pm and 10pm when i go to bed she wakes usually at least once but sometimes 2 or 3 times. Then during the night she will wake around 2 to 3 times.

I am frequently told to let her cry and she will soon learn to get herself to sleep. The problem is that I just can't leave her in the room on her own Ihave tried to get her dad to settle her but this leads to screaming which doesn't sit comfortably with me so I go in and feed her to sleep.

The problem is that i really need some sleep and lack of sleep is beggining to effect me and I'm really quite miserable. I just don't think crying it out is for us though.

I wondered whether any of you have had any experience of frequent night wakers and what did you do? I have read loads about the draw backs to letting your baby cry and wondered what other peoples views are?
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 12, 2009 10:43 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm afraid I can't give you any real advice.  Erin has only been sleeping through for just over a month now, and still mainly goes to sleep on the boob!!

I personally can cope with Erin doing a whiney cry, but if she's crying properly there is no way I can ignore her...it's like something pumping through my veins forces me to go to her!

Do let us know what advice your guru had and if you think the no cry sleep solution could work??
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Jolanky



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PostPosted: Wed Jul 15, 2009 7:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well after my email from Elizabeth Pantley I have been trying her suggestions and things seem to be looking up! We only have 2-3 wake up each night now and they are for only 10-15 minutes. I suddenly feel so much better about everything and less inclined to let Isabel cry. It's funny what a bit of sleep does for you.

I think Elizabeth Pantley has earned guru status in our house now!

Long may the better nights continue!! Very Happy
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 16, 2009 7:09 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yay!! What a breakthrough! Well done and enjoy the sleep! xxx
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 25, 2009 12:57 pm    Post subject: :0) Reply with quote

Tate is 27 months old and still doesn't sleep through!  Lol.

I found that once I accepted that he wasn't a big sleeper instead of feeling pressurised to get him to sleep through, things got better though.  We now co-sleep so that he feels safe and secure.  I found that when he was in his own room I got a lot less sleep so now it works quite well... even though I'm pregnant again!  :0)

I look at it like this:  he's not going to need me for long so I may as well make the most of those lovely moments in the night when he needs a snuggle and a breastfeed!  When he does wake lots there is usually a reason that becomes apparent after the fact.  Teething, an illness, a growth spurt.... When I started realising what a blessing those moments were it all became so much more magical.  I feel blessed that he feels comforted by me being there whenever he wakes.

Heaven only knows what I'll do if I have 2 non sleepers when the new baby arrives though... but I'm sure it will all work out just fine!

Good luck to all who are struggling with the night wakes! xxxx
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 25, 2009 6:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thanks Michelle. It's nice to hear from another breastfeeding co-sleeper with an older baby. Especially one with such a positive view on it all.
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 26, 2009 4:57 pm    Post subject: :0) Reply with quote

You are so welcome!  Hey I just noticed Tate's birthday is very close to your little girls but a year apart.  His birthdate was 3rd April 2007!  Smile
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PostPosted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 6:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

maybe it's april babys  Laughing


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